I had an amazing mom-moment on Mother’s Day. The busyness of life paused and the joyful moment unfolded in slow motion.
I’d gone away for a relaxing, refueling girls weekend at one of my friend’s cabins. It’s taken me years to realize the importance of self-care. Even though my head knows all the benefits of happy moms, as I was about to leave for the weekend, my guilty heart doubted if I really wanted to leave my family.
But the weekend was just what I needed. My friend and I drove home mother’s day morning feeling refreshed and renewed. As my friend pulled into my driveway, I saw sitting in front of the garage a vertical planter my husband had built me. It was full of handwritten letters from our boys telling me what they loved about me.
I snapped pictures and smiled through the letters as my husband pulled up in his car. Our boys’ little noses were pressed against the side windows of the back seat, their excitement clear. The next moment was a reunion of complete joy as each boy clambered out of the van to hug and kiss me and give me their homemade Mother’s Day gifts. I loved listening to my husband tell me his inspiration for making me the planter and my boys all about the gifts they created.
I never want to forget Mother’s Day this year – I felt deeply loved. I want the moment etched in my heart forever, so I’m recording it on my blog.
As moms, we all have a desire to bottle up memories to return to and smile about. On some level, we realize how good fond memories are for our well being. Studies show: Nostalgia is good for us, giving us increased optimism and less anxiety about the future.
‘Nostalgia raises self-esteem, which in turn heightens optimism,’ said study co-author Dr. Tim Wildschut, from the University of Southampton.
Capturing our memories is important for our self-care, but that doesn’t mean we all need to spend hours of time creating the perfect scrapbook. There are lots of what to capture your memories in an empowering way, not a stressful one. Here are some ideas (affiliate links):
Take lots of pictures and videos. Keep it simple, and organize them by date once you download them, or get fancy and organize the files by year and events. Back up your photos on two hard external hard drives, you can place in fireproof boxes for safe keeping.
Tuck your journal in your purse and while you’re parked in front of the school, waiting for volleyball practice to end, jot down your thoughts for the day. Or write in the morning or before bed. I know we don’t have lots of time, but focus on what time we do have.
My friend jots funny things her kids say or a moment she wants to remember directly onto her calendar. Brilliant.
Go for it. It’s a great way to release creative energy.
This is totally my thing, I’ll try and not be over-the-top enthusiastic here. I’ve tried other companies and prefer Shutterfly because of the multiple coupons you can put in. I usually wait for the 50% off sale, put in the free shipping coupon, and then put in the coupon mailed to me with my previous item ordered if it hasn’t expired. I make a Shutterfly album every year. I spend way too much time organizing the photos, pictures of schoolwork/art projects and recording the funny things my kids say (remember this is my joy – don’t ask me to cook you dinner), but you can upload photos and the program will automatically place them in the book for you. Way easier and you still get a beautiful memory book.
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Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys, wife, speaker, high school teacher, and author of Empowered Moms & Kids. She has a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership and is passionate about learning and teaching. On www.empoweredmomsandkids.com you’ll find inspiration and encouragement for moms raising tweens and/or teens. Read more in the “about” section of this page.