(Inside: Eight ways you can feel more empowered with each passing birthday.)
My birthday is here.
My husband asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I didn’t even have to think, “Not to turn 38.” With each passing year, I dread more reluctantly welcome my birthday.
But, the ironic part is, when I reflect on my life and best years, they’re always are the years I’m in. The thirties brought two more sons, introduced me back into my career and gave me the confidence to pursue writing.
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Then, I look at people ahead of me in life and notice they seem rather happy too. I’m thinking each decade holds it’s own charm. Maybe aging isn’t such a crisis – rather a bridge we cross into a more empowered life. Look at all the benefits of aging:
1. Dream bigger – I love that with each passing year, I seem to discover a few more of life’s treasures and dream bigger. (Why can’t I do that? Why can’t it be me? I’m going for it.)
2. Increased confidence – I’m past the “first big things” part of my life – I have gotten married, chosen a career, bought a car, bought a townhome, sold a townhome, bought a house, currently am remodeling our home, gave birth to three sons, started a tutoring center from my home…etc. I look back on my life experiences and see what I have done, and think – I’ve got this life thing! Bring on the next challenge!
3. Stronger Faith – I’ve seen God pull beauty from pain, turn impossible situations into okay and continually reveal Himself to me. Experience does that for us. Moment-by-moment, brick-by-brick…it strengthens our faith. (And it’s a journey, we’re always working on this, but experience helps.)
4. I care less about what people think – You realize NOT EVERYONE IS THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME. They don’t stress over your stupid mistakes as you do. They’re too busy with their own problems. It isn’t all about us – isn’t that great!
5. It is easier to get compliments on my outfits – Okay, hear me out… I taught high school all through my twenties, took a break to be home with my boys in my earlier thirties and this is my first year back in the classroom. I now get way more compliments on my outfits by my students than when I was a twenty-something-year-old teacher. This has made me wonder why…because, if anything, I put less effort into my attire now that I am trying to get myself and three little boys out the door. I concluded that when you get older, the expectations of wearing trendy clothes go down. So, now that I am back in the classroom and for the first time in my teaching career am technically old enough to be my students’ mom, I don’t think they expect much out of my attire, so when I do dress cute – they tell me. It’s kinda awesome.
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6. A greater appreciation for life – I don’t think everyone is invincible like I did in my youth. My grandma is gone, and my grandpa joined her this year… I long to have those sweet people back with me…so, it’s wretched vanity to be critical of my aging face. I’m healthy, my parents are healthy, I have a beautiful family and loyal friends….I’m blessed. Every day is a gift.
7. Live more intentionally – With age comes wisdom, discernment and a better ability to live my life more intentionally.
8. Happiness – Bottom line, passing years, and reflection experiences helps me see how much beauty life holds. I’m grateful to be one this earth surrounded by amazing people and things right here, right now.
I’m going to feel the joy of celebrating the day that God created me today. And realize that many of life’s greatest gifts…
…come with age.
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Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys, wife, speaker, high school teacher, and author of Empowered Moms & Kids. She has a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership and is passionate about learning and teaching. On www.empoweredmomsandkids.com you’ll find inspiration and encouragement for moms raising tweens and/or teens. Read more in the “about” section of this page.