(Inside: You can’t change your teens, but you do still have a huge positive influence on your kids. And they need you. So, try this…)
You can’t change your teens.
You can’t change that your teens seem to always be staring at their phones. But you can teach them what to do with their time instead: remind them of the library, help them apply for a job, put them in charge of their own lives (laundry, chores), encourage their hobbies, share the live music at the park schedule, or give them cash to meet friends for burgers.
You can’t change that your teens display wavering self-belief. But you can speak life into them: point out what they’re good at, remind them of their strong personality traits, and help them find situations where their gifts shine. Show them how the world needs them, exactly as they are
You can’t change your teens’ hurtful words. But you can remember this season is a roller coaster ride and that perfect families don’t exist. The experience will be up, down, and everything in between on repeat: you’re not doing anything wrong. Keep things in perspective, pursue wisdom, embrace grace, practice self-kindness, and carry on.
Are you butting heads with your teen about getting their stuff done? Me too. Read more about my journey and how my big kid and I found a new way to communicate here.
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Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys, wife, speaker, high school teacher, and author of Empowered Moms & Kids. She has a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership and is passionate about learning and teaching. On www.empoweredmomsandkids.com you’ll find inspiration and encouragement for moms raising tweens and/or teens. Read more in the “about” section of this page.