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Off, off, off!
I fumbled at my car radio.
I don’t need to hear anybody roar… No hearts going on… And I’m not gettin’ jiggy wit it (I just took you’ll waaaay back didn’t I.) I. Just. Can’t. My brain impulsively sends my fingers to the radio deck searching for off. At the end of every day, the longing for silence overtakes me.
What happened? What made me this way?
It started at age 22 when I went from the back of the classroom to the front. In a blink, I had responsibilities that felt heavy. (Amazing, but heavy.) Filled with IEPs, 504 plans, curriculum, school/state/parent expectations and a bazillion students…I learned that a high school teacher’s job is fast-paced. There are about twenty minutes to eat lunch (that includes a bathroom break), five minutes to help students during passing period, and exactly zero minutes to think.
The silence of my ride home became my place to unpack my day. (Why is Joe not engaged in learning anymore? How can I encourage Chrissy whose mom is fighting cancer? How do I better teach that concept next time?) It’s when my mind analyzed and problem solved. An essential tool for a teacher.
Parenting feels the same way. Except for times ten. (Or times a million.)
Just like classroom teachers juggle weighted responsibilities, so do parents…
Then, even though we, as parents, say we don’t care what others think…do you still find yourself making a decision against your better judgment because of “social pressure?” (“Son, you’re doing football! It’ll be great! You’ll love it! *You totally know your kid will NOT love it. And never be a football star.*) If your hand is up – yeah, me too.
Parenting is heavy. (Amazing, but heavy.) And – of course – we all want to be good parents. We want to follow all the parenting advice out there:
Parents are oversaturated with how-to-be-a-good-mom/dad resources mixed with heavy responsibilities. The noise – even the good noise – is loud. How do we know which one piece of solid advice will benefit us the most?
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Just like teachers, parents long for silence. This is why we subconsciously lock ourselves in the bathroom. Or linger way too long at Target when we’re kidless. Silence calls out to us and says, “You need me. You’re making some of the most important decisions of your life during your parenting years (in careers, in raising children, in finances, in everything). I can help you find those ‘best answers.'”
Do you hear that calling too? Look. Silence doesn’t need much time to empower you – only 8 minutes.
Let me explain…
If you’re like me – type A, practical, math/science oriented – we can think we don’t need silence. We’re tough. Capable. Me-time is selfish. Silence is for the weak. (Feel free to laugh here.)
Except, science doesn’t support that. (I think that’s called irony.)
There’s much scientific research supporting the health benefits for both the body and mind through deep breathing, mindfulness, meditation, prayer and/or silence. The practice of silence strengthens immunity, reduces stress, supplies perseverance – it builds us up both physically and mentally. In the stillness, we analyze, brainstorm next steps, and make those best decisions.
Related article: Breathing Techniques – A Guide to the Science and Methods
So, I created a FREE mini e-book to maximize those 8 minutes of quiet time to empower us. (As always, life doesn’t always obey formulas. There are days when it’ll all feel awesome and other days when you just should put it all away and go watch You’ve Got Mail. But we keep showing up anyway. We have grit, ladies.)
In the silence, parents need to be built up in 3 areas:
The mini-ebook contains 7 days of meditation/silence/prayer (using deep breathing and mindfulness techniques) that will empower us in the three areas mentioned above. I included scripture because God’s Word strengthens me in powerful ways and I thought you’d enjoy the empowerment too. Of course, my outline is a guide – make any changes so it works for you.
So, are you in? Ready to reclaim 8 minutes of our lives? Push the off button? Ready to take one small step that will launch us 10 steps forward?
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Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys, wife, speaker, high school teacher, and author of Empowered Moms & Kids. She has a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership and is passionate about learning and teaching. On www.empoweredmomsandkids.com you’ll find inspiration and encouragement for moms raising tweens and/or teens. Read more in the “about” section of this page.