Why I’m NOT Freaking Out that My Struggling Readers Has Low Scores
(Inside: Your struggling reader is going to be just fine. Encouragement for parents and practical steps to take when your kid doesn’t want to read.)
My Child Doesn’t Want to Read
My oldest son cried every day for 2 years about it.
It was horrific. I started to dread it…
…the 20 minutes every day his teacher said he must do it…
All through kindergarten reading time, he cried. By the middle of first grade, I started to cry too. Oh, we had our good moments. Like, when we snuggled together and started a book without crying. But somewhere in the middle of Sam I Am not wanting any green eggs and ham, my son teared up and it had nothing to do with the food. He hated to read. It was painful. So painful, I began wondering if this reading thing was just a fad. Could we wait it out? Would caveman drawings come back into style? He could do stick figures.
But during parent-teacher conferences at the end of 1st grade, his teacher gave us the kind but stern talking to that our son needed to learn to read. His reading scores were low. Like, his cousin had similar reading scores before he even entered kindergarten.
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What We Did to Help our Struggling Reader Like Reading
Ugh. When the teacher told us it was urgent we get our son back on track, I knew it had gotten serious. School will always be incredibly hard for him if he couldn’t even do the basics – read.
Stress. Prayer. Encouraging. Frustration. Talking to. Practice. And more reading. My son finally caught on. By 3rdgrade, he loved it and was reading chapter books on his own.
Then we got THE LETTER.
This time, it wasn’t the letter showing his below-average reading scores, but an invitation – to be in the gifted program for reading at school.
I almost fainted. What the what???
I thought maybe it was really for the smart little neighbor girl across the street, but it said my son’s name. It had to be for him.
Look. I’m not the type of parent who thinks my kid needs to be honors everything or really anything. (As a high school teacher, I know regular courses are rigorous enough.) It’s not about that. It’s about the fact that for two long years success in reading seemed hopeless. Painfully hopeless. I thought he would always be behind. I couldn’t see that maybe it would still click for him, just later than I hoped.
Fast-forward five years…
A different son (we have three) had below-average reading scores this year at the beginning of 5th grade. Guess what I didn’t do?
Why I Didn’t Freak Out My Struggling Reader Hates Reading
Because I remembered from our experience with our oldest son:
- Sometimes learning just takes more time that we want.
- It is never too late to catch up on reading.
- Situations usually work themselves out.
So we are making reading a priority, just like we did with our oldest son. We are persisting, persisting, persisting…and it is frustrating…
But, we’re already seeing progress – my 5th grader’s scores have inched back up into the low normal range.
And they’ll continue to climb and he’ll eventually learn to like reading – or at least well enough to find success in school…
And if your kiddo is behind too – don’t panic, just persist…I just you some ideas on “how to” below. But, momma, the fact that you are concerned tells me you’re doing a great job. It will work out. So, keep moving forward. You’re a great mom and your kid is going to end up doing just fine.
How to Get My Child to Like Reading
These are the steps we’ve taken in our home to help motivate our children to read. The key step is persistence. What did I miss? What works for your family? Leave your answer in the comments.
Book Recommendations to Spark Your Struggling Readers’ Love of Reading
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Your struggling reader is a gift and a delight. Just because this aspect of school might be difficult right now, doesn’t mean it will always be. Read the full Help Your Kid Thrive in School Series.
As a high school teacher for over two decades, I love, love, love watching kids learn. It’s okay if there are struggles in their educational journey. Not just okay – normal, even. We just keep stressing the importance of education and giving them the tools of success. And then we encourage our kids and love them well.
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Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys, wife, speaker, high school teacher, and author of Empowered Moms & Kids. She has a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership and is passionate about learning and teaching. On www.empoweredmomsandkids.com you’ll find inspiration and encouragement for moms raising tweens and/or teens. Read more in the “about” section of this page.
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