
Three Words that Transform Parenting Big Kids for the Better
(Inside: These three powerful words transform parenting big kids in powerful ways. Better get to know your teen with this phrase.)
These three words are transformative in parenting.
One of the teens came in hot to my cooperating teacher’s classroom, spewing accusatory words, borderline yelling at the teacher. In that moment, I felt like she had every right to tell him his actions were disrespectful and escort him to the dean.
But she didn’t…
Instead, she tilted her head, let a curious expression cross her face, and leaned in.
“Tell me more,” she invited with heart and gentleness.
Then, I watched them work together to solve the problem and talk about how better to approach someone when upset next time.
“Tell me more.”
Three powerful words.

They are a comfort to our kids. The phrase reminds them we’re on their side, want to know their opinions, and hear their explanations.
“You broke curfew again? Tell me more about why.”
“You want to go this place with that person? Tell me more.”
I want to know your thoughts.
I want to hear your why.
I am trying to understand because I’m for you. Always, always, always on your side.
What’s wise in this situation?
What keeps you safe?
And sometimes, that means your teens take the lead in determining direction. Other times, it’s a firm boundary line by parents, something that also makes teens feel protected, even if they don’t instantly say so. Every kid needs someone watching out for their best interest with kindness, nourishment, and firmness in those things that pound in parents’ hearts that a “no” is absolutely needed.
“Tell me more.”
And with raising my house full of middle and high schoolers.
“Tell me more.”
Every parent has a pulse on the energy in their own home and a gut that whispers what’s right for their people. Moms and dads, maybe these three words won’t work for you. Or maybe, like me, you’ll find these three words…
Transformative in your relationships with your big kids.

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Cheryl is a mom of 3 boys, wife, speaker, high school teacher, and author of Empowered Moms & Kids. She has a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership and is passionate about learning and teaching. On www.empoweredmomsandkids.com you’ll find inspiration and encouragement for moms raising tweens and/or teens. Read more in the “about” section of this page.